How to Lead Introverts and Extraverts Through Stress

Hint: They Need Completely Different Things When Stress Hits

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TLDR:

• Introverts and Extraverts handle stress differently – what works for one won’t work for the other

• When stressed, Introverts typically go quiet and withdraw, while Extraverts start talking more and seeking connection

• That “disengaged” Introvert might actually be doing their best thinking work

• That “chatty” Extravert isn’t avoiding work – they’re processing through conversation

• Small adjustments in how you support each type can make a huge difference in keeping your team effective under pressure

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Throughout our Managing Stress Challenge, we explored how to recognize and manage our own stress signals. But as a leader, your responsibility goes beyond yourself – you’re also there to support your team.

This month, we’re switching things up. Instead of discussing entire personality Roles or types, we’re focusing on individual trait pairs like Introversion vs. Extraversion.

Why? Because it’s often easier to spot a single personality trait in a team member than to identify their complete type, and this approach gives you practical tips to help your team more effectively even without knowing their full personality profile.

Today, we’ll cover:

• How to spot Introverted and Extraverted team members under stress

• Why withdrawal vs. engagement are both healthy coping mechanisms

• Specific support strategies that work for each Energy style

• One practical leadership approach for helping each type through pressure

Let’s get started!

How Introverts Tend to Handle Stress

An Introverted team member experiencing stress may:

• Become noticeably quieter in meetings during high-pressure periods

• Request time to think before responding to complex questions or decisions

• Seek physical distance or private spaces when overwhelmed

When your Introverted team members face stress, they typically turn inward to process and recover. These personalities are more sensitive to external stimulation, meaning that high-stimulus environments – open offices, back-to-back meetings, constant interruptions – quickly deplete their energy reserves.

Under pressure, Introverts often need to withdraw temporarily to regain perspective and energy. This isn’t disengagement or lack of commitment; it’s their natural mechanism for maintaining effectiveness. Without adequate processing time, these team members may experience decision fatigue, communication difficulties, and reduced creative capacity.

What may look like withdrawal is often productive internal work happening behind the scenes.

According to our research, 64% of Extraverts say they feel like they effectively manage the stress in their life, compared to just 44% of Introverts.

How Extraverts Tend to Handle Stress

An Extraverted team member experiencing stress may: